Connect2 Marriage Getaway is a signature all-inclusive 4D3N overseas marital experience specially curated for couples seeking a chance to restore and renew their connection.
Anchored upon Focus Marital Therapy (FMT), an evidence-based therapeutic approach that has been developed in the USA.
Facilitated by professional Couple Therapists Dr Jared and Dr Joyce Tan, who have been married for over 10 years.
Hosted by warm and friendly Couple Coaches Robert and Dorothy Lum who have been married for 40 years, who will share wisdom and encouragement from their own marriage journey.
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This isn’t just a getaway—it’s a turning point. Whether you're holding on by a thread or simply want to invest in your future together, this experience offers hope, clarity, and a path forward.
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A Restorative Overseas Setting
This is not an office visit or classroom programme.
Set in a serene overseas retreat location with full board, away from screens, stress, and the daily grind, the natural surroundings and comfortable hospitality will help you slow down, recharge, and engage more deeply—with yourself and your spouse.
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Group Sessions that Feel Safe, not Exposing
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Real-Life Couple Coaches on your side
You won’t just learn communication skills—you will see them lived out. Your Couple Coaches journey with you throughout the four days, offering empathy and wisdom drawn from real marriages and real struggles.
They create a safe space for reflection, processing, and growth.
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Small by Design. Deep by Intention.
Each run is limited to just 5 couples.
With a practitioner-to-couple ratio of 1:2.5, each couple receives attentive, personalised guidance and care.
Marriage
16–19 May 2026
A restorative environment
Structured group sessions facilitated by trained therapists
Coaching to practise new skills as a couple
Guided activities to renew your bond
This is not a holiday where you “hope things get better”.
It is a reset with a clear plan.
You will not be singled out or be put on the spot.
Share as much as you are comfortable with.
Experience the commonalities of couple experiences and patterns.
All sessions are guided by experienced couple coaches and trained therapists.
05
Support Before and After the Getaway
While the Marriage Getaway is a 4D3N experience, our goal is the long-term health of your marriage. Your journey begins before the Getaway and continues after it ends.
Prior to confirmation for the Getaway, all interested participants will undergo a 1-hour exploratory session to ensure fit and safety.
After the Getaway, every couple is assigned
a 1-hour follow-up coaching session (within two months) to review progress and support lasting change.
- 4D3N stay in a suite
- Daily breakfast, lunch, and dinner
- Group sessions led by trained therapists,
with your choice of coffee or tea - A private session, just you and your spouse with a therapist
- Experiential couple activities facilitated by couple coaches
- A guided movie date night
- A pair of couple coaches ready to journey with you during the Getaway
- Two-way ferry tickets
(HarbourFront ↔ Sekupang) - Two-way shuttle transfers (Terminal ↔ Resort)
- Welcome drink
- 1-hour pre-getaway exploratory session
- 1-hour post-getaway follow-up coaching (within two months)
Note: Couples are advised to take up their own travel insurance policies to insure against the cost of unforeseen circumstances.
VENUE:
Holiday Inn Resort Batam (IHG)
FEE:
S$4,300 per couple
A $200 non-refundable deposit is required
to reserve your spot.
Financial Support: Cost should never be a barrier—subsidies are available so you and your spouse can receive the care you need.
Please reach us at focus@family.org.sg or +65 8499 9022 to explore your options.
Cancellation/Refund policy: Please let us know if you need to cancel at any time. We seek your understanding that any deposit and payment is non-refundable due to the costs required to secure the services that this programme entails.
- You feel emotionally distant or disconnected
- You feel stuck in repeated patterns and don’t know how to move forward
- You want help but aren’t sure where to begin
- You and your spouse are willing to show up and try
MARRIAGE GETAWAY IS FOR YOU IF:
We include an exploratory session that allows us to listen carefully and guide you toward the most appropriate care path for your marriage and well-being.
DAY 1:
CONNECTION
The Be List
Values
Healthy Self
DAY 2:
INSIGHT
Healthy Marriage Model
Relationship Roadmap
Love Tank
DAY 3:
ELEVATE
Care Cycle
Heart Talk and Work Talk
DAY 4:
CHERISH &
COMMIT
Dr Jared Tan (PsyD)
Principal Clinical Psychologist,
Focus on the Family Singapore
Jared is a certified supervisor and advanced therapist in Hope-Focused Couple Therapy. His approach to couples and family systems work is integrative and strategic, incorporating emotion-focused elements to address expectations, communication, conflict resolution, and forgiveness, utilising evidence-based interventions. He has experience intervening in marriages with co-morbid cognitive, mental, physical concerns, and relational trauma. He is also trained in evidence-based approaches such as CBT, DBT, ACT, IPT, and EFT in his work with individuals. He is happily married to Dr Joyce Tan.
Dr Joyce Tan (PsyD)
Having lived and worked in different countries and cultural settings, Joyce deeply appreciates the importance of working closely and collaboratively with individuals and couples navigating major life transitions, emotional health, and relational skills. She is trained in evidence-based approaches such as CBT, DBT, ACT, IPT, and EFT, and in trauma-informed approaches like EMDR. She is a certified advanced therapist and supervisor of Hope-Focused Couples Therapy. Alongside her clinical work, Joyce is involved in lecturing, supervision, mental health training, and consultation.
Meet Your Therapists
Meet Your Coaches
Robert and Dorothy Lum
Robert and Dorothy Lum have been married for 40 years with 3 married daughters and 5 grandchildren.
In his job before his retirement in 2025, Robert has prepared many couples for marriage. He has also counselled couples facing challenges. Dorothy holds a master’s degree in counselling. For many years, she served as a volunteer counsellor in a non-profit organisation. They firmly believe in healthy marriages and thriving families. They are passionate about strengthening marriages, especially in our challenging world.
Robert serves as a mentor and advisor in a non-profit organisation. Dorothy is an executive wealth director and runs her own agency.
Why attend
Connect2 Marriage Getaway?
Programme Highlights
This experience blends:
Getaway Guides
What's Included
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need to pay a deposit to register my interest?
Registration & Deposit
What if we decide not to proceed after the exploratory session?
Is this counselling or a retreat?
Programme Fit & Safety
How do we know if this programme is right for us?
What if we don’t have “big problems”?
What if we fight a lot?
What if one of us is unsure about staying married?
Is this suitable if there has been an affair?
Is this suitable if there is violence at home?
Will we have to share in front of others?
What Happens During the Getaway
Will we get private time as a couple?
Will there be “homework”?
How do I register?
Registration & Payment
Will we get private time as a couple?
Will there be “homework”?
Frequently Asked Questions
Registration & Deposit
Programme Fit & Safety
What Happens During the Getaway
Travel & Logistics
Registration & Payment
Children & Childcare
After the Getaway
Ready for
Marriage Getaway?
Getaway
16–19 May 2026
Marriage
Getaway
Connect2 Marriage Getaway is a signature all-inclusive 4D3N overseas marital experience specially curated for couples seeking a chance to restore and renew their connection.
Anchored upon Focus Marital Therapy (FMT), an evidence-based therapeutic approach that has been developed in the USA.
Facilitated by professional Couple Therapists Dr Jared and Dr Joyce Tan, who have been married for over 10 years.
Hosted by warm and friendly Couple Coaches Robert and Dorothy Lum who have been married for 40 years, who will share wisdom and encouragement from their own marriage journey.
•
•
•
A restorative environment
Structured group sessions facilitated by trained therapists
Coaching to practise new skills as a couple
Guided activities to renew your bond
This is not a holiday where you “hope things get better”.
It is a reset with a clear plan.
This experience blends:
A Restorative Overseas Setting
This is not an office visit or classroom programme. Set in a serene overseas retreat location with full board, away from screens, stress, and the daily grind, the natural surroundings and comfortable hospitality will help you slow down, recharge, and engage more deeply—with yourself and your spouse.
01
02
Group Sessions that
Feel Safe, not Exposing
You will not be singled out or be put
on the spot. Share as much as you are comfortable with.
Experience the commonalities of couple experiences and patterns.
All sessions are guided by experienced couple coaches and trained therapists.
05
Support Before and After the Getaway
While the Marriage Getaway is a 4D3N experience, our goal is the long-term health of your marriage. Your journey begins before the Getaway and continues after it ends.
Prior to confirmation for the Getaway,
all interested participants will undergo a 1-hour exploratory session to ensure fit and safety.
After the Getaway, every couple is assigned a 1-hour follow-up coaching session (within two months) to review progress and support lasting change.
Why attend
Connect2 Marriage
Getaway?
Small by Design. Deep by Intention.
Each run is limited to just 5 couples.
With a practitioner-to-couple ratio of 1:2.5, each couple receives attentive, personalised guidance and care.
03
04
Real-Life Couple Coaches on your side
You won’t just learn communication skills—you will see them lived out.
Your Couple Coaches journey with you throughout the four days, offering empathy and wisdom drawn from real marriages and real struggles.
They create a safe space for reflection, processing, and growth.
DAY 1:
CONNECTION
The Be List
Values
Healthy Self
Programme Highlights
Healthy Marriage Model
Relationship
Roadmap
Love Tank
DAY 2:
INSIGHT
Care Cycle
Heart Talk and Work Talk
DAY 3:
ELEVATE
DAY 4:
CHERISH &
COMMIT
• You feel emotionally distant or disconnected
• You feel stuck in repeated patterns and don’t know how to move forward
• You want help but aren’t sure where to begin
• You and your spouse are willing to show up and try
Marriage Getaway is for you if:
We include an exploratory session that allows us to listen carefully and guide you toward the most appropriate care path for your marriage and well-being.
Dr Jared Tan (PsyD)
Principal Clinical Psychologist,
Focus on the Family Singapore
Jared is a certified supervisor and advanced therapist in Hope-Focused Couple Therapy. His approach to couples and family systems work is integrative and strategic, incorporating emotion-focused elements
to address expectations, communication, conflict resolution, and forgiveness, utilising evidence-based interventions. He has experience intervening in marriages with
co-morbid cognitive, mental, physical concerns, and relational trauma. He is also trained in evidence-based approaches such as CBT, DBT, ACT, IPT, and EFT in his work with individuals. He is happily married to
Dr Joyce Tan.
Dr Joyce Tan (PsyD)
Having lived and worked in different countries and cultural settings, Joyce deeply appreciates the importance of working closely and collaboratively with individuals and couples navigating major life transitions, emotional health, and relational skills. She is trained in evidence-based approaches such as CBT, DBT, ACT, IPT, and EFT, and in trauma-informed approaches like EMDR.
She is a certified advanced therapist and supervisor of Hope-Focused Couples Therapy. Alongside her clinical work, Joyce is involved in lecturing, supervision, mental health training, and consultation.
Meet Your Therapists
Meet Your Coaches
Robert and Dorothy Lum
Robert and Dorothy Lum have been married for 40 years with 3 married daughters and 5 grandchildren.
In his job before his retirement in 2025, Robert has prepared many couples for marriage. He has also counselled couples facing challenges. Dorothy holds a master’s degree in counselling. For many years, she served as a volunteer counsellor in a non-profit organisation. They firmly believe in healthy marriages and thriving families. They are passionate about strengthening marriages, especially in our challenging world.
Robert serves as a mentor and advisor in a non-profit organisation. Dorothy is an executive wealth director and runs her own agency.
Getaway Guides
- 4D3N stay in a suite
- Daily breakfast, lunch, and dinner
- Group sessions led by trained therapists, with your choice of coffee or tea
- A private session, just you and your spouse with a therapist
- Experiential couple activities facilitated by couple coaches
- A guided movie date night
- A pair of couple coaches ready to journey with you during the Getaway
- Two-way ferry tickets
(HarbourFront ↔ Sekupang) - Two-way shuttle transfers
(Terminal ↔ Resort) - Welcome drink
- 1-hour pre-getaway exploratory session
- 1-hour post-getaway follow-up coaching (within two months)
Note: Couples are advised to take up their own travel insurance policies to insure against the cost of unforeseen circumstances.
VENUE:
Holiday Inn Resort Batam (IHG)
FEE:
S$4,300 per couple
A $200 non-refundable deposit is required to reserve your spot.
Financial Support: Cost should never be a barrier—subsidies are available so you and your spouse can receive the care you need.
Please reach us at focus@family.org.sg or +65 8499 9022 to explore your options.
Cancellation/Refund policy: Please let us know if you need to cancel at any time. We seek your understanding that any deposit and payment is non-refundable due to the costs required to secure the services that this programme entails.
What's Included
Frequently Asked Questions
Registration & Deposit
Travel & Logistics
Programme Fit & Safety
What Happens During the Getaway
Registration & Payment
Children & Childcare
After the Getaway
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